Today and in fact every day since I lost Steve Ive been trying to keep myself busy. But today was important, as today I met with the funeral directors to book the date and organise the detail.
The funeral will be held at St Lawrence Church, Chobham on the 26th November at 12pm.
Steve and I didnt talk very often about life after he had gone, as we were too busy either trying to fight the cancer or too busy living our lives together. However one day, whilst sat outside looking at our beautiful garden Steve told me what he would like for his funeral.
Steve wished the following
He wanted everyone to come together who had known him through the years for a service of remembrance at St Lawrence church, followed by family only at the crematorium. Steve particularly wanted his close friends to carry him from our house to the church. And finally when I asked him about flowers or donations, he simply said "I love flowers" Oh and of course a drink afterwards at the Sun Pub!
So.... that is what he is going to have! Well after all of these months of fighting for Steve to get what he needed Im certainly not going to stop now!
In fact at times I feel like this is Steves last wish of me but its not. Steves wish goes far beyond the funeral. Steve wanted me to continue to be a part of Victoria's life, he wanted me to carry on being a great Mum to Megan and he wanted me to be happy. Oh and not forgetting his precious lawn!! Some of these I know will be easier than others! So anyone with green fingers your always welcome at the house!
Ive spent many hours thinking and talking about Steve to friends and family and some moments are harder than others. I still have a terrible pain inside and last thing at night and first thing in the morning are the hardest but I have a focus at the moment and a drive to ensure that the day that Steve wanted was and is the best it can be.
So as I said before anyone that can and wants to are welcome to the service on Friday 26th November at St Lawrence Church 12pm. The funeral directors are Lodge Brothers, Woking and the florist in Chobham will be doing the flowers Wooldridge and Sleep.
Love to everyone and make sure you take care of yourselves and each other. x x x
Sally, I was so sad to hear that the dreaded day had come, I can only imagine how painful it must be to loose such an amazing and wonderful man as Steve! You are absolutely right, the Steve I remember enjoyed life so much and made everyone around him smile, so wipe those tears, hold your head up high and smile as he would have wanted you too! Thank you for the open invite, I will be there on Friday to celebrate the life of your gorgeous "Wrighty"! x
ReplyDeleteSorry, forget to put my name at the end of last message, Vicky Bull (Williams)
ReplyDeleteSally, hi, my name is Lisa, I was at school with Steve many many moons ago! Your journal has been amazing and I take my hat off to you, you yourself are amazing. The love that radiates from your words is so moving. Steve was a great guy, full of zest, and some people go a whole lifetime never feeling the love that you two obviously shared. I truly admire your courage and strength Mrs Wright!
ReplyDeleteYou have all those wonderful memories to cherish that will never fade, and hopefully one day the pain will start to lessen.
My deepest condolences to you and your girls and Steve's folks & family.
Lisa Daddy (Seth)
XXX
Dearest Sally
ReplyDeleteAlthough I did not know Steve personally, I am too am very sad to hear of your loss. I have been following your blog over the time and I feel I did get to know him and you much more! Your focus at present is right, to be as strong as you can for the day you want to give him to say goodbye, Emily has been so sad for Megan but as much as we worry they are extremley strong, I know this will make you and both girls closer. I hope to see you soon, and know that I am thinking of you constantly. With love Kim